I wish this forum was a bit more active because CPANEL's one-size-fits-all implementation of things fails on many fronts. There needs to be more granular control over the server and how it works at a more fundamental level. I'm stuck using the apps cpanel decided were "best for everyone" and it seems to take them ages to support new stuff, or add options. In this case I think exim is working nicely but it sure took a lot of tweaking on my part to get it there.
I posted this thread like a week ago and not even one CPANEL guy bothered to drop a hint...and there are even more unanswered questions in this forum, not only mine (my question I answered myself

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