Ok.. so I didn't fix it... I have been going through the posts and haven't found a solution yet... but these are the error messages I am getting.
2002-07-09 20:16:30 refused relay (host) to &
[email protected]& from &
[email protected]& H=My personal ip (my machine name) [y IP again]
2002-07-09 20:21:35 unexpected disconnection while reading SMTP command from My personal ip (my machine name) [y IP again]
One post suggested editing the exim.conf file and remove &Reverse& and &Lookups& that didn't work.